The Life that We Deserve

We all have dreams and we can all imagine a version of our life that would be amazing.

But oftentimes, we don’t even allow ourselves to think that far. We put limits in our mind and on what we believe is possible. We tell ourselves to not be silly, to not dream that far… out of fear to be disappointed.

We tell ourselves not to be silly, but rather to be realistic. But what is realistic, really? It’s what we allow our reality to look like. In fact, we are all capable of living the life of our dreams. It is within our means to follow our calling and make our dreams come true.

…So why don’t we?

Why don’t we allow ourselves to think big and dream without limits?

Why are we scared of being disappointed?

It’s because deep down, we don’t believe that we deserve it.

We don’t think that we are worthy of receiving everything that we had been hoping for.

So we try to limit ourselves and stick with what we have and be happy with less than we could have, because it represents exactly what we think we should have.

We might envy others who “have it better” and who are living the life we truly want, but we think it’s not for us. We think that we could never get there.

And that’s where we are wrong.

Because we do deserve the life that we are dreaming of. We deserve to be happy. We deserve to have our dreams come true. We are worthy of joy and fulfilment. And we are here to make the most out of the time we were given.

We don’t have to settle for less.

And to change our reality, we need to change our mind. Our mindset.

We need to change what we believe is possible.

And most importantly, we need to change what we believe we are worth.

We need to change what we believe that we deserve.

What if we were worthy of getting everything we ever wanted? What if we were worthy of living the life of our dreams?

What if we were able to be our true selves and follow our passions and be loved and accepted for exactly who we are?

What if we didn’t have to prove anything to the world?

What if we didn’t have to prove our worth, and work harder and harder just to get to where we want to be?

What if we could just be?

Society often makes us believe that in order to get what we want, we have to earn it.

That blood, sweat and tears are the predecessors of success.

That we just need to work hard to be happy.

That nothing comes for free.

What if that wasn’t true?

What if just by being born, we had already earned our place in this world?

What if just by being who we are, we are good enough?

What if we didn’t need to portray an “improved” version of us so that others would like us, love us?

What if we could be our authentic selves and be loved and accepted in our true essence?

The world could be a better place.

We could form true connections.

We could shed light on our deepest fears

And feel included

And include others.

We could have honest conversations

With ourselves and those around us.

We could admit what we don’t know

And we could ask for help.

We could see our weaknesses as strengths

And celebrate vulnerability.

We could meet others where they are

And we wouldn’t be afraid to start something new

Even if we didn’t know how it worked yet.

We would be less afraid of failure.

And we could try new things just for the sake of it

Not to prove anything to anyone.

We could feel at home in our bodies

Because they wouldn’t define our worth.

We would no longer do things

Just to meet others’ expectations

We would not feel the pressure

To be perfect

And “successful”

We would strive for

Being present

And content.

We could be more gentle with

Ourselves and others

We could be more patient

And forgiving

We could understand

The other side

Without needing to prove

That we are right

We wouldn’t play to win

But to learn

And grow

We would not want to be perfect

But just better than yesterday

We would enjoy the moment

Without dwelling in the past

Or worrying about the future

We would cherish this life fully

And accept everything that is

We would no longer fight

Our reality

But instead

Be happy with where we are

And who we are

Right in this moment

We would understand that

Labels don’t define us

And definitions aren’t fixed

We would see the chance to

Reinvent ourselves

Every day.

We would be curious and open

To what the world has to offer

And we wouldn’t shy away from a challenge

But approach it with interest

And genuine curiosity.

We would no longer try

To change others

Or ourselves to “fit in”

Because we would understand

That we are all unique

And we are all on our own journey

And we are just fine

As we are.

We would let go of pressure

And perfection

And worry

And pain.

Because all that matters

Would be this moment

And we would truly be us,

Be ourselves and be here,

We would breathe in and breathe out

And enjoy the view

On our journey

Towards ourselves.

We would know that in

Finding ourselves

We could be healed

And we could let go

Of all external validation

And expectations.

We could forgive ourselves

And others

And we could start each day

With a smile

And an open mind.

It doesn’t matter

Where we are

Or what we do

We can start each day

By changing our mind

And seeing the world

Through a new lens.

We can find joy

In the simplest moments

And we can start believing

That everything we have ever dreamed of

Is possible

And that everything that we need

Is already

Inside of us

And that there is no rush

And that the timing of our life

Is just right

And we could trust

And surrender

To this moment

And all

That it has to offer.

And we would see potential

Where before, we saw nothing.

And we would see opportunities,

Where before, we saw fear.

And we would be brave and daring

Where before, our mind was closed.

And we would feel excitement and adventure

And we would feel that

We are alive.

And we would know that

Each day would be different

Than the one before

And that we could let go of

Our sense

Of security and need for

control

Because everything

Will work out

Just how it is supposed to

And the only constant

Is change

And when we embrace change

We embrace growth

And we embrace flow

And we let ourselves flow

In the direction that we need to

Without force

And without control.

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So what if

We didn’t need to

Work for it?

What if

We didn’t need to worry?

What if

We were never enemies

Or competitors

What if

We were all just here together

On this planet

Sharing our time on earth

And making the most out of it

By helping and supporting each other

By sharing our dreams

And uplifting others

By believing in ourselves

And our friends

And our lovers

And strangers

By being kind

And open

And generous

And compassionate

And humble.

And what if I told you

That all of this

Was true? What if I told you

That this is not

Just a mind game

And some hypothetical questions

What if I told you

That you can create

The life that you want

And the reality

That you are dreaming of.

And that even if you are scared

To take that first step

You are safe

And you will succeed.

And no matter how many times you try

And you feel like you are failing

You will always find the strength

And the hope

To get back up

And try again

And you will get there.

You are not alone in this.

You are loved and supported.

You are safe.

And you are capable.

It is ok to be scared.

It is ok to open up.

It is ok to ask for help.

It is ok to set boundaries.

It is ok to change our mind.

It is ok to go for what we want.

Actually, more than ok.

It is just what we need.

And we can be proud of ourselves

For every step

That we take

That brings us closer to

Who we really are

And what we came here to do.